You’re not f*cked up. At least not any more than anyone else. If there’s one thing my work has taught me, it’s that everyone’s got something. It’s just that people are in varying stages of knowing about that something. And there are various somethings that our world at large seems to actually approve of, rather than pathologize.

Ever heard of the Transtheoretical Model? It’s also known as “The Stages of Change.” Developed by James Prochaska and Carlo Di Clemente, it hypothesizes that humans go through various stages when trying to change behavior. It’s usually applied in the context of substance…


Would it even be a Twitter deactivation if I didn’t write about it? And then maybe even tweet about how great it is to be off Twitter? Probably not. So here goes.

I deactivated my Twitter account on April 5. Since then, I’ve reactivated briefly only to tell everyone that I’m still alive and doing well after a slew of concerned emails, texts, and even LinkedIn messages (we’re always connected in some way, aren’t we?).

So yes, I’m well. Better than well. Thriving, I dare say.

There’s a thing that happens when you leave Twitter. Your thinking becomes a lot…


How does one write about depression during a pandemic? It seems like such an odd topic to write about. Depression? What? Humanity is in crisis! Why aren’t you freaking out? Freak out more, Sonia! Be deeply concerned! Spring into action! Be a helper! Do, do, do!

This is just part of the inner monologue I face every day. It’s an interesting thing, to be depressed while the planet springs into chaos around me. It’s an odd experience to have my internal condition mostly unchanged from how it was before all the chaos began. Because that is what my depression does…


EDIT, June 23, 2020: I might as well discuss the specific allegations Mr. Fleischman has made about my record as a prosecutor, because he has misrepresented reality. I wasn’t going to address his allegations, because they are so ludicrous, but I suspect some people read this article looking for that. Mr. Fleischman seems to understand that laypeople will accept a falsehood spun as truth if there is some whisper of the law in it, and he uses this to manipulate the truth, so I’d just like to ensure the record is clear.

He admonished me for prosecuting a case involving…


There are a some events in my life that I don’t talk about very often, and 9/11 is one of them. I was living in Fort Greene/Clinton Hill, Brooklyn, on that day. I was an undergrad at NYU, and I didn’t have class until the afternoon on Tuesdays. …


On May 29, 2017, I wrote a response to LambdaConfs’ purposeful invitation of misogynist Ed Latimore as their keynote speaker. I had already received considerable harassment on Twitter due to my speaking up about the event, but shortly before I was due to publish my response, Breitbart picked up the story, and the harassment became worse. I was afraid for my safety and I chose not to share my response with the world. You can find the Daily Camera’s story here.

The months following my speaking up were some of the hardest of my life. I was scared to walk…

Sonia Gupta

Lawyer turned Technologist turned Human. Here you’ll find ruminations on various topics related to each of those pursuits. Thanks for the follow!

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